vulnerable. Part 2.

There has been hurt and swirling passions and drama in my life. Sometimes it’s been acted out by people close to me. Sometimes by me. It all feels the same. The swirling passions of close friends and family are felt deeply by me at times. Sometimes it’s been overwhelming. There have been sleepless nights. Fitful dreams. Anger. Outrage. Hurt. And joy, too. Less remembered, the joy. It sticks in the heart – the hurt. Like thick pins. The hurt doesn’t have to be pulled to the surface to be remembered.

I don’t have any physical qualities inherited from my dad. Except my knuckles. This always makes me smile. I used to stare at my dad – his eyes, ears, nose, mouth, eyebrows – to try and figure out where I matched him. There was nothing I could see. I think I got his internal traits. A little of his awe-inspiring ability to be calm in almost all situations. To chuckle, even, when things go awry. On Father’s Day a few years ago, all of us kids held my dad’s hand during a church-ending prayer, and I noticed our knuckles. Such deep wrinkles that spread far beyond the hinge in both directions. I smiled and my insides grabbed violently onto the sameness. I’ve always wanted to be like my daddy.

I’ve always known I was my mamma’s. I came from her belly.

I have the same restless passion as mom. The same wild hair and the same desire to be wild. A tendency toward hyperbole (but also a rabid desire to reign that in). A lunatic’s tendency to follow what’s “best” rather than step on toes, but here and there, we both get so pushed into corners following that tendency that we eventually act out. For me, I get highlights or whack my hair off. Last year, deathly scared of being a receptionist the rest of my life, I walked off without giving a 2 week notice. That was extreme for “safe” me. And I never felt so very alive.

With the two parental extremes, I can see why, in my confusion and desire to control my environment, I act a little obsessive compulsive.

And also why they got divorced when I was six.